Wednesday, June 17, 2015

Why So Many Black Women Are Single and Alone

One of the biggest mistakes women can do is strip men of their masculinity with their independence. This happens on so many different levels that it shifts women attitudes and they become demanding and head strong on what they bring to the table. It's like Hasani says, they become the man they are seeking.

Ladies it's ok to be strong and independent however, we need to learn and appreciate what it means to be interdependent and when to be. Know the difference between being independent and interdependent.

Hasani Pettiford makes some pretty good valid points in his video click below to watch.


Why I Think Submission is Sexy

Yes, Submission is Sexy! As I encounter women young and mature on the subject of submission most agree and then there are those who look the other way. Primarily because they have misconceptions of what the true meaning is all about. Submission is not about being weak, belittling, demeaning, or enslave women in anyway.

Submission is simply coming under the mission (vision) of your husband. This is not intended for women to submit to men in general; she is to "submit" to her own husband and to him only. However for single women your submission is unto God.

Submit is to honor your husband in leading your marriage, family, and home. It reflets on you the respect you have for him and ladies respect is not a want for men, it's a need. To disrespect a man is like stripping him of his masculinity! As much as men love sex and need it they will remove their presence from you before allowing you to seduce them sexually once you disrespect them.

Respect to a man is what affection is to us ladies. There both needs and we must honor that unto each other. Men interpet respect as love and when we show them respect we are praising them. A submissive woman is a wise woman who understands the importance of speaking life into her husband. To be submissive we must trust God and His sovereignty.

Submission requires humiity, a prayer life, and the pilot of the Holy Spirit. Ladies once this revelation has been received you will acquire the benefits that come with being a submissive wife.

And remember, Submission is Sexy!

To your transformation,

Barakah Miller
Healing & Relationship Catalyst
Author of forthcoming book The Scales of Love

Tuesday, June 16, 2015

The Battle and Differences of Love Tour

The Scales of Love

Are your Wants in Alignment with your Worth?

Sometimes smart women make bad decisions. Over and over again. That was Brayla’s story. This uber successful single mom and businesswoman is madly in love with the most handsome man in the world! He has a fantastic job, a serious cash flow and he loves her. She truly believed she and Bishop were together forever…until she learned he was married. With kids! Brayla kicked him to the curb and learned to live without him. Now he’s back and they’re more in love than ever. And he’s still married.

Brayla knows she’s wrong, but she’s so afraid—afraid of losing him, afraid of letting go, afraid she’ll ruin the life of someone she loves more than Bishop, even more than herself. This is one time she can’t afford to have principles. Thank God for her girlfriends who don’t judge her, but pray for her. They’ve promised, if need be, to be the clean-up crew!

THE SCALES OF LOVE is a must-read for every woman. The message is clear: as much as you love him, you have to love you more--and keep God the center of your life and relationship. If that’s not happening, it’s only a matter of time before the teardrops fall! Get your copy today and take a ride on one brave woman’s courageous journey to real love—the godly way! #TSOL #TheScalesofLove

Saturday, May 16, 2015

The Power of Healing

As an early teen I knew I was different. I had already lived and survived what seemed to be unsurmountable for a girl my age. My journey into this world was tragic as a premature baby and from that moment on as I was named ‘Barakah’ God had already declared me as his ‘Blessing.’

From the age of five through ten I was molested on and off; at the age of seven I became terminally ill with Crohn’s and Ulcerative Colitis (an inflammatory bowl disease; aka IBD) and being a severe Anemic; as a teen I was date raped and emancipated as an adult by the age of 16, stemmed from a tumultuous relationship with my mother.

A fatherless daughter naïve with no clue about life, love, and relationships my journey to adulthood was experienced and learned through trial and error. With no foundation on relationships, low self-esteem, no voice to speak for myself, no identity (other than living out the definition of what others gave me), and not a clue about love I endured emotional, mental, and financial abuse.

I was completely unhappy! With no direction, motivation, or anyone showing me how to become the woman I knew I was destined to be. I long for that moment for someone to value me, to love me, to believe in me, and not use me or take me for granted.

As I experienced life I became a mother of five beautiful blessings. However, it was not until my last birth in 2003 where things actually began to shift for me. The unthinkable happened…my ‘Ramiyah’ met an untimely death after three weeks of being born prematurely. I was devastated and immediately I found myself comatose into a deep depression. I knew I needed a breakthrough and there was more to this story than I could currently comprehend at that time. God was up to something.

Two months later I found myself at a women’s success conference. I knew I needed help from my deep escape from the world and God was the only one to assist me with this process. I lived in a dark place for a long time masking my pain and with no identity. Only to hinder my progress as the pain and hurt continued to build over the years. It was truly in the death of my child where life was given back to me. I no longer look at her untimely departure as “death” but “LIFE” given back to me and her through the awesome power, grace, mercy, and love of the almighty God!

Why? Because that could have been me meeting death and leaving four beautiful gifts without a mother. I was given another chance at life. To finally make my debut in discovering who I truly am. In that revelation I knew I had to pull my strength and get it together. That was my first step to my commitment to heal. I began my journey of healing and personal development in the midst of that conference. I was an emotional drained and flawed woman filled with so much emotional trauma, pain, anger, and disappointments. Yet, the journey to ME was in motion and I was ready for the ride.

Victim to Victorious! After attending that conference six months later I began to release the pain and emptiness buried within me. I began to smile, laugh, and restoring of my confidence was rebuilding.
It was not an easy transformation. I had to give myself permission to expose my truth to me. I had to acknowledge my pain and confront it and not allow the fear within me to block my transformation. I was ready, I was willing, I was scared, I was nervous, but I knew what I envisioned on the other side looked like to be whole, to be free and above all worthy of my healing and self-love. I was ready to forgive and love.

Today, I am extremely passionate about the power of healing and the dynamics of how it can completely transform any relationship. My self-care in my healing has made a tremendous difference in my relationships so much that I consistently implement a self evaluation to ensure there is no residue lingering that will sabotage my relationships. I invite you to experience the journey of healing in your life, love, and relationships I promise your life will never be the same.

I am Fearless-Bold-Confident-Intentonal-Geniune-Authentic-Unapologetic about my story! And I pray the same for you.

Rule: Healing unlocks the pathway to self-love and forgiveness.

Barakah Miller
Healing & Relationship Catalyst
Author of The Scales of Love

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Who You Fightin For?

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